The Five Wishes

From Your Parish Health and Wellness Ministry

One of the things people value most is being able to make their own decisions.  We decide what to have for dinner, what to wear, and whether to get up and come to church or sleep in.  There are some other important decisions you can make, but it is important you make them early and share them with other people.  These are decisions about how you want to be treated and have happen if you have a terminal illness or are in a permanent, unconscious condition.

There are legal documents that outline your decisions, such as a Living Will, Advanced Directive to Physicians, or a Medical Directive. The Five Wishes is another option, written in everyday language. It was introduced in 1997 and was written with the help of the American Bar Association’s Commission on Law and Aging and leading experts in end-of-life care.

The Five Wishes approach, to be discussed during the Adult Forum on March 6 and 13, includes the following questions for you to answer:

  1. Who do you want to make health care decisions for you when you can’t make them?
  2. What kind of medical treatment do you want or not want?
  3. How comfortable do you want to be?
  4. How do you want people to treat you?
  5. What do you want your loved ones to know?

Questions 3, 4 and 5 include your spiritual, personal and emotional wishes that are not usually included in most Living Wills.

We encourage all adults, ages 18 and above, to join us during the Adult Forum on Sunday, March 6 and 13 to learn more about the Five Wishes and prepare their own document.

Your Health and Wellness Ministry

Janel Milliren &  Kim Friedli


Adult Forums in February

Each Sunday at 10:00 am in the Tree of Life Room

February 7 – Intergenerational Lent Event
No Forum today as all ages come together to prepare for the season of Lent with special projects and learnings.

February 14 –The Jordan River Today
There is much fear about people and places in the Middle East. There is worry around climate change and environmental issues. Join Abby Cress, who spent a year in Palestine and Israel, to explore one of the biggest environmental issues in the Middle East through a Christian lens. This Bible Study was created by an environmental and pro-peace organization in Israel, Palestine, and the Jordan: Eco Peace Middle East.

February 22 – Biblical Peacemaking
Promoting neither passivity nor violence, Jesus offers a third way to address conflict and injustice. Examine this vision, practical insights, and how to apply Jesus’ Way of Shalom to the various conflicts in our lives and in the world. This forum will be facilitated by members of the Lutheran Peace Fellowship (

February 28 – Diversity and the Church
Continuing our discussion around racial identity and privilege, PRLC’s DiversiTeam will host another dialogue to consider how our love for Jesus might propel us as a congregation and the church universal toward necessary change. We want to encourage discussion among the people of PRLC, while empowering congregants to continue this discussion outside of church walls. Topics include white racial identity, privilege, and alliance. Liturgy, resources and snacks will be provided!


In addition to Adult Forum, PRLC offers these faith formation opportunities throughout the week:

Tower Study
Meets each Sunday, 10:00 a.m. in the Tower Room
Liturgy and Justice: Making the Connections
Join Pastor Hansen for a discussion on the relationship between Sunday worship and God’s vision of justice. Explore the ways in which the vision of God’s Kingdom is enacted around font, word and table and how this Kingdom flows out into the world. All are welcome!



Lectionary and Lunch
Noon in the Library
Join the pastors for an exploration of the Sunday scripture readings. A great way to prepare for Sunday worship. All are welcome and are invited to bring a sack lunch.



Spirited Women
10:00 a.m. in Tree of Life
Spirited Women have been meeting every Wednesday morning for 16 years for fellowship, faith exploration, reflection, and prayer. This is an open group and women are welcome to join at any time.


Help! My kid’s in confirmation and I don’t know the answers!
6:30 p.m. in the Fireside Room
Join Pastor Van Kley during Bread for the Journey time to discuss Luther’s Small Catechism in an informal setting. Whether you have it memorized from childhood, have never look at it, or simply want to know more about the core aspect of the Lutheran tradition, please join the conversation. All are welcome!


Prayer Oasis
Wednesdays at 6:30 p.m. in the Chapel
Using the “aural bible study” method, join Pastor Hansen in the Chapel as we pray the scriptures. The scripture will be the Gospel reading for the upcoming Sunday. We will also explore, over these weeks, other venues for prayer such as Imaginative Prayer, the daily prayer office and praying with icons. All are welcome!



Evening Spirited Women
Third Thursdays at 6:00 pm in the Tree of Life Room
Like the Wednesday morning group, Evening Spirited Women seeks to provide a place for faith sharing, fun, and mutual support shaped by book discussion and prayer. This group is currently reading the book Searching for Sunday: Loving, Leaving, and Finding the Church, by Rachel Held Evans. The group meets every third Thursday of the month. Soup suppers will be provided at the meetings. Childcare is available upon request.


February Meeting of Evening Spirited Women

The new Evening Spirited Women group will meet on Thursday February 18 from 6:00-7:30pm in the Tree of Life Room for our book discussion. A soup supper will be provided. We will be talking about the book Searching for Sunday: Loving, Leaving, and Finding the Church by Rachel Held Evans. Come prepared to discuss through section 3 of the book. If you have any questions or would like to be added to the contact list for this group, please email Pastor Anne at

Reflection on Sabbath

Beyond Sunday, Sabbath may take many forms. The following reflection, penned by PRLC member Jasen Frelot, is one example.

This Advent my family and I resolved to practice an extended Sabbath. This meant for us, as a family, the praying of the hours and for me, individually, the reduction of non-essential work (e.g. starting no new projects and focusing exclusively on the development of pre-existing relationships).

In my prayers I have asked God to give me the courage to live slowly,  to truly see and hear the people I encounter throughout the day and to give me a heart and mind towards Sabbath.

After a week of practicing this discipline I have found that Prayer has become an essential part of my day, to the point where I am shocked that I ever existed without doing it with greater frequency.

I have discovered that Sabbath is, as Walter Brueggemann teaches, truly an act of resistance. Living my life attuned towards Sabbath rest is a truly freeing and liberating experience that reminds me that I and my family are ultimately accountable to God. I am reminded of the Psalm of forgiveness David prays: Against you, and you alone, have I sinned oh God. Sabbath practice has shown me that we are all God’s children, all accountable to God and all loved by God.

This realization simultaneously increases and decreases the importance of each person and interaction. It liberates me from the need and desire to please people but convicts me to love more deeply and fully. Freed from the fear of disappointing or saving others, I have entered into a space of deep connection, love and liberation.

This practice has also revealed how odd and rare the practice of rest and reflection is in our culture. In my desire to move more slowly I can see others around me moving at fast-forward, frantically trying to keep time that there never seems to be enough of. Yet Sabbath has taught that there is enough time; in fact time is infinite, sprawling and unchanging . God gives us time as a gift, a tool to love each other and to find peace and love in him.

I have found that Sabbath practice has caused me to see the injustices I experience as a black man in our culture more clearly. I have seen how this culture demands that I justify it by submitting to it even as it refuses to acknowledge my humanity and individuality. Sabbath and prayer ground me in the divinity of my humanity and compel me to act as simply a man, a child of God, nothing more and nothing less. It has given me the freedom to assert the simple but profound authority I have as a human, born free and designed to live free.

Sabbath practice has not been easy but it has been good in the best possible way. I look forward to experiencing more of what God has to teach me through this discipline.
Jasen Frelot


January Meeting of Evening Spirited Women

The new Evening Spirited Women group will meet on Thursday January 21 from 6:00-7:30pm in the Tree of Life Room for our first book discussion. A soup supper will be provided. We will begin talking about the book Searching for Sunday: Loving, Leaving, and Finding the Church by Rachel Held Evans. Come prepared to discuss the Prologue and first section of the book titled “Baptism”. We have copies available for a purchase price of $15 at Grace Station. If you have any questions or would like to be added to the contact list for this group, please email Pastor Anne at

Adult Forums in December

Sunday Mornings at 10:00 in the Tree of Life Room

December 6, 2015
Lutheran Youth of North Seattle (LYONS)
You are invited to come for a presentation and discussion with Jon Ross, the director of our cooperative youth ministry, Lutheran Youth of North Seattle (LYONS). Feel free to bring questions about how our youth program works at Phinney Ridge, how it fits into our community here, and where LYONS is headed in the coming years.

December 13, 2015
Opening the Christmas Gift
Join Pastor Hansen in an exploration of Advent, Christmas and Epiphany as they are celebrated in the life of the church and how the richness of these traditions may be extended to the home.

December 20, 2015
Voter Education: Initiative 735
I-735 is a proposed Washington state ballot initiative that aims to reverse the 2010 Citizens United ruling. This has allowed corporations to have the same constitutional free speech rights as individuals. One result has been that corporations have been able to spend millions of dollars on elections and have the same Constitutional freedoms as individual citizens. Sixteen states have already passed resolutions like I-735. With the help of faith communities like ours, Washington can become the 17th. The campaign has collected over 220,000 petition signatures so far, and need at least another 80,000 by the end of December to qualify for the ballot in 2016. More details about I-735 can be found at

~ No forums on December 27 and January 3 ~


Evening “Spirited Women” Group Forming

The first evening meeting of Spirited Women will take place on Thursday November 19th from 7:00-8:30pm at PRLC in the Tree of Life Room. Our intern Kate Niklasson will lead us in an opening devotional, and then we will be engaging in some faith sharing, snack eating, and brainstorming about what we want our group to look like in the future! If you have not yet had an opportunity to get on the contact list for this new group and you would like to be included, please get in touch with Intern Kate by email at or by phone at (206) 601-5283.

Adult Forum Offerings in November

November 1, 2015
All Saints Day
Join in our intergenerational event to explore All Saints: engage with the lives, faith, and vocations of the historical saints and the saints of Phinney Ridge Lutheran! Look soon for opportunities to share about PRLC saints from your life, and for young people to interview some Phinney saints who may or may not be able to join us in worship regularly.

November 8, 2015
PRLC’s Endowment: Giving Through the Ages
We invite you to come and hear about the good ministry that your Phinney Ridge Lutheran Endowment Fund supports. Learn how you can give to the Endowment Fund now or as part of your estate planning, and learn how to apply for an Endowment Fund grant that will expand PRLC’s ministry in the church, community and world.

November 15, 2015
Diversity and the Church
Come hear from the members of Phinney’s newest ministry, the Diversity Team. This team seeks to consider how our love for Jesus and other people might propel us and our fellow members of PRLC toward necessary change. We want to encourage discussion among the people of PRLC about how we as a community of faith might make changes and choices for the equality of all.

November 22, 2015
How Much Is Enough?
Join us to explore the consumer economy, “affluenza”, and what Jesus calls us to do in these times of economic inequality and climate change. “As sages have said, contentment lies not in obtaining things you want, but in giving thanks for what you have.” ~Arthur Simon

November 29, 2015
Advent Intergenerational Event
All members of the church family are invited to gather to prepare for this celebration of the incarnation of our Lord. The words Prepare, Proclaim, and Share form the basis for this event that includes making an Advent Wreath (all supplies provided) and other activities for families with children to help them learn more about this special time and prepare their hearts, minds, and homes for the coming of Christ. Special devotional activities for adults will be provided and take-home materials for members of all ages will be provided. And there will even be a visit from St. Nicholas!


Circles for November

And let us consider how to provoke one another to love and good deeds, not neglecting to meet together, as is the habit of some, but encouraging one another, and all the more as you see the Day approaching…

~ Hebrews 10:24-25


Join Minister of Outreach Patrick Meagher to discuss The Letter to the Hebrews, and specifically the passage from 10:11-25.

Mary/Martha: Wednesday November 11 at 1:00 in the Library

Salem: Wednesday November 18 at 10:00 at the home of Judy Lee (Norse Home)

Bethany: Monday, November 9 at 9:30 a.m. in the PRLC Library

Circles for October

Surely goodness and mercy shall follow me all the days of my life, and I shall dwell in the house of the LORD my whole life long.
~ from Psalm 23

During October the circle meetings led by Pastor Hansen will focus on passages of healing in honor of the Festival of St. Luke celebrated on Sunday, October 18. In preparation please read Isaiah 53:3-5, Psalm 23, and Luke 4:14-21.

Mary/Martha: Wednesday October 14 at 1:00 in the Library
Salem: Wednesday October 21 at 10:00 at the home of Lois Huseby
Bethany: Monday, October 12 at 9:30 a.m. at the home of Signe Lyshol.